You can't give something you don't have. God is love. If you don't have God in your life you can't effectively love someone. Your relationship becomes work you become tired and unhappy. Relationships fail you begin to feel lonely. Nothing works. Easy solution #tryjesus he's all you need. #trustme #ivetriedhim
This was a Facebook friend's status the other day. I find it appalling that someone is suggesting that if you don't have God, and particularly Jesus in your life your relationship is doomed. You will be lonely, tired, and unhappy. As someone who has been living life as an atheist for almost a year now, and was basically living an agnostic life for years before that, I have to call bullshit on this form of elitism.
To believe that you have found the secret to love and marital bliss is just obnoxious. To suggest that if you don't have the Christian God in your life you can't love someone is stupid. And then to condemn such relationships as being unhappy and tired speaks volumes about this persons level of brainwashing.
My own case is anecdotal, but what about the millions upon millions of people who live on this planet who are not Christian and are in marriages. Are we suggesting that there is not a single Hindu couple out there who is effectively in love with someone and as a result is tired and unhappy? Are we saying that Muslims are not capable of deep love and happiness?
Having grown up around this kind of bullshit, I can say that this was a common sentiment within my church community. There was definitely this idea that was passed around that Muslims didn't really love their wives and children. That their marriages were all forced and their children the products of some kind of marital rape. That girl's weren't valued and therefore were treated like dirt by their fathers (and sometimes mothers) and that boys were just raised to be sexist pigs who would perpetuate this lifestyle. There were not exceptions. I was a teenager when I watched a Muslim father on the news cradling his baby daughter, crying tears of joy that she was alive, and then realizing that this idea that they could not love was a lie perpetuated by ignorance and religious prejudice.
So I know where this person's sentiment was coming from. And it is wrong. I have tried Jesus and I found that he didn't have the answers. My marriage is no better or worse now that I believe he wasn't a god.
This is a personal, but secret, blog archiving my deconversion from a Christian to a non-believer.