A few weeks ago, my husband and I were filling out the application to begin the adoption process. I was the one doing all the writing since I have better handwriting. One of the blanks listed was 'Religious Affiliation'. I left it blank at first, not sure if I wanted to write down in black and white on an official document that I wasn't a Christian. I was also a bit worried that by writing something like agnostic or atheist, we would be judged by the social workers who are processing our application. When I came to same question again, I asked my husband what he wanted in that blank. "Christian," he said without pause. I filled out the rest of it, all the medical forms and questions about how much we made and then returned to that one question.
Religious Affiliation: none.
I felt like the right answer. Of course, as we have been reviewing the photo listings of waiting children there are a number who talk about how much they like going to church or want a Christian family. I have to rule these kids out of our choosing process because the truth is, although my husband is a Christian, we aren't a Christian family. I am willing to take a kid to youth group or drop them off at a church on Sunday morning. But I will not be attending church with them. I will be that whispered about parent that doesn't come to church with their kid. I'm okay with that. This does mean though that if a kid is really intent on having a Sunday School Christian family, we really aren't it. I just hope that in the buckle of the Bible belt, this doesn't go against us.
This is a personal, but secret, blog archiving my deconversion from a Christian to a non-believer.