The passing of an abortion bill in New York has brought the anti-abortion fanatics out by the droves. Now, I am aware that the bill is really defining late term abortions, something that the data shows happens in only 1% of abortions and only in the most extreme cases. Not only that, but they are terribly expensive and there are a million hoops to jump through. The parents who decide to follow through with a late term abortion are mourning deeply the loss of a much wanted child, rather than the image that anti-abortionists paint of people using it as a form of birth control. Although there are certainly irresponsible people out there that have gotten knocked up one too many times (along with the subsequent abortions) for anyone's comfort, this is certainly not the case for late term abortions.
Do you think anti-abortion proponents care at all about this? If you guessed no, then you would be correct. They are well aware of the stories of fetus' with all their organs growing outside of their bodies who will never be able to survive outside the womb. And they don't care. They share stories about women who decided to carry their non-viable child to term, knowing the baby would die upon arrival. Those women being so anti-abortion bask in their choice. I applaud their choice. That's a hard thing to do. My problem lies in that these same people have decided that because they made that choice, everyone should. Sure, they got to hold their full-term baby and watched it die in their arms, therefore this is what is right for everyone.
And I know doctors get it wrong sometimes too. We have all heard the stories of doctors encouraging abortions saying the child will be a vegetable, only for the child to come out and only have some minor difficulties. Of course, no one is sharing the stories of the babies born who are vegetables. I'm part of a special needs group on social media and these parents often vent about how people are so insistent that their children are just perfect. All of them have stated that if they could remove the disability their child suffers, particularly the ones that mean their children will never grow up, they would do so in a heartbeat. Some have expressed that although they adore their child and will fight to the death for them, they also aren't against the idea of people aborting fetus' with the same affliction because it is hard raising special needs kids. It just is. Of course, the religious see disability as some kind of extra special blessing that they have to endure.
I am NOT saying that people should abort those fetuses. I very much don't like the idea that people abort fetus' who aren't perfect or have minor health issues. What I am saying is that that should be their choice. A pastor at my old church had a son who had organs growing outside of his body, several holes in his heart, and would not survive outside the womb for long. They decided to carry to term, however they made it clear that they were not actually against an abortion and that the decision had been agonizing. They decided that for them, they needed the closure of meeting this baby and neither the mom nor the fetus were in medical distress. The baby lived for three days. They took him home and loved on him and took pictures with him. He looked so perfect. But they made sure to tell the church that although they have always been fairly anti-abortion in the past, this incident change them. They realized now how agonizing and terrible of a decision it was and that they would never fault anyone who chose to abort. No one, not even me, could understand what a horrible decision that is unless they are making it.
If you are devoutly anti-abortion, you will of course make an expected decision. You have that right. I am so sick of seeing these stories being passed around though that are supposed to make the reader believe that this is the only and right choice. That to do anything less is sinful and playing god. I can't imagine how much this harms women who have had to make that awful choice too. Here she had to make a terrible decision and you constantly remind her what a piece of shit she is for doing it. Christians offer the added bonus of "salvation", which promises redemption by constantly reminding you what a piece of shit you were before said salvation. I can't imagine what the church must feel like if you came to it later in life, full of "sinful" things you did in your past. I know several people who talk about what pieces of trash they were before Christ. Of course, they weren't really, just regular humans trying to figure out who they were, but the church doesn't spin it that way, so piece of trash you are. Then again, if you did enough terrible things you'll be touted in news stories as having an amazing testimony, so hey, silver lining. *sarcasm*
This is a bit of a ramble rant and I'm writing while lying sick in bed, so if it doesn't make as much sense as some of my other posts, just remember....you chose to read it.
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