I have slowly been telling people about my deconversion, mostly to the people who are very close to me and to whom I trust it will be safe to tell for various reasons. The reactions have been fascinating. My husband aside, I have now told ten people. What I knew about them before deconversion and their reactions to the news are below.
Coworker #1 - raised Catholic - seemingly ambivalent towards religion
Here is my conclusion after all of this. There are a lot of people out there who call themselves Christians, who really aren't. They have rejected many of the tenants of the faith, yet for some reason, they continue to call themselves Christian in order to either fit in or because they don't know what else to call themselves and are unwilling to go down the atheist road. Considering how much my childhood friend talks about prayer, it was actually a bit shocking to find out that she thinks the Bible is a load of hogwash and has for a long time. She does think there is a god, but was willing to admit that she might just be listening to herself. Now, so far I have been careful to only share this with people who I perceive as being supportive and my instincts have been good so far. None of the people I told were leading a small group, or post scripture verses all day on Facebook, or read their Bible religiously. I know that what I am seeing now will not be that way for some of my friends and that I will lose some friends during this process. But I do find it interesting that even in this small sampling, so many people who wear the Christian label are at best, theist and at worst agnostic.
This is a personal, but secret, blog archiving my deconversion from a Christian to a non-believer.